With the start of the academic year, parents who heaved a sigh of collective relief at the thought of not having to organize and plan the day so their child isn't at a loose end, may now be wondering how to occupy them during the slew of holidays that have been declared. How to get your child to play alone and quietly, without constantly begging you,”Play with me!”? It’s not only a teenager who needs his or her 'space’; very young children too, need mental room.
Give them space. Even while you supervise their play and keep a constant eye on them, you can
still afford them space. Allow your child time to think quietly and play alone.
A child who can't handle a second without outside stimulation needs to develop
some attentive muscles, just as a less active child may need to exert himself
or herself physically.
Creativity comes from constraints. Overloading our
homes and yards with toys can have a crippling effect on our children's
imaginations. Set aside some time when they
cannot use gadgets and PSPs. Allow them to dream and exercise their
creative muscles. Let them to find ways to entertain themselves, rather than
depending on you to suggest activities.
Don’t
fuss about the mess. Hold your tongue
when you see them trooping in the mud.
There’s nothing a little soap and water can’t take care of. If you’re
honest, you would be the first to admit that the
best play usually involves dirt, sand, water and rocks.
A museum of everything. To gather objects is
a natural compulsion. It’s not unusual to see children leave the
kindergarten with something clutched in their hands or stashed in their
pockets. Sticks, stones, dried leaves, bugs, and sometimes even sand can engage
their fascination for hours. Collections kept outdoors are no big deal, but
when they want to bring the outdoors, indoors- dedicate a shelf or tray to keep
things neat and contained.
Dress
them for play, not a wedding! Allow
your children to wear clothes they can get dirty without worrying about grubby
knees on pants, or ripped pockets. After all, would you go to the beach in a
suit or a saree?
The ability to occupy oneself is a life skill that is
becoming less and less common and infinitely more valuable. What you do to
encourage your child to acquire this skill would go a long way in giving him or
her a lively interest in the natural world and an ability to balance an innate
creativity with the demands of a technology driven world.
